“Complain” is a word which we have been hearing since we got our understanding sense. Since our childhood we found many people around us who always talked about their unwanted circumstances and people. Normally we are trained to the habit of complaining, our mind will go looking for the thing to complain about next. Whenever we find some unusual or unpleasant circumstances around us, our mind start complaining as per it’s tendency . So knowingly or unknowingly our mind reacts to that unpleasant situation.
Our complains are directed internally or externally. It’s a natural way of reacting our dissatisfaction. What would happen if you only gave yourself permission to complain, if you were going to do something to take action about that complain? Wouldn’t it force you to put your complain in to perspective? Think about it. Sometimes complaining helps to release your bottled up feelings.
Motive behind Complaining
Many times, I observe that, many people having the habit of complaining and so the society calls them " Complain box”. These little complains about everything, will definitely ruin our happiness and peace of mind. We can never have those little pleasant moments if we are in the complaining mode. There are many motives behind those complains. Like,
- Many people complain just to relive their stress level
- sometimes some people are complaining just to draw their attention ( mostly like kids and some teenagers)
- some people have the habit of complaining ( like some chronic complainer )
- some people complain to gain an emotional sympathy
- Sometimes it can be Ego satisfaction and even a superiority complex can be root cause
Stop complaining and start living
The consequences are manifold . It affects our mental as well as physical well being. It can also ruin your relationships and can cause inane amount of stress. Instead of complaining start thinking about it's change. To change your deeply ingrained behaviours you must require some sort of positive vibes and self awareness. Instead of complaining about someone, try to put in your leg in their shoes and then one should react accordingly.
It can be hard to break the habit but if you are able to follow some simple technique , you will definitely benefit to create a better life style. Like, try to nourish the positive attitude. Life is too short to live with complains and regrets. Laugh more, according to research from the Loma Linda University in California, the simple act of laughter can uplift your mood. Try to being less judgemental and accept your responsibility.
As Gandhiji said, " Be the change you want to see in this world " when you stop complaining and think about it's cureness or solutions , your mind instantly start working upon it and you find new ideas for your complaints. Complaining hurts YOU more than others, because when you complain, your body and mind would fill up with negative energy, which ultimately affect your mental health.
Be grateful for whatever you have. May be these are the things or phases of your life which you were praying for, yesterday. So stop complaining and start appreciating. Thankfulness and gratefulness’ are direct opposite of complaining and it’s much easier to avoid complaining when you are genuinely thankful for all of life's blessings.
